This article raises a question that many people have wondered: what should someone think when she stops looking for him. Different hypotheses are directed in that, when you stop looking for the person, he or she has more desire to get closer to you. Sometimes, this is what can happen, but I already anticipate that we are going to see that it is the only option for us. In the following Psychology-Online article we want to unveil the mysteries around what does a person think when you stop looking for them. We explain the consequences that ignoring someone can have and also some tricks so that you know if that person thinks of you or not.
Index
- How a person reacts when you ignore them
- Does passing someone else work?
- How do you know if he thinks of you?
How a person reacts when you ignore them.
What does a man think when a woman stops looking for him or vice versa? What does a man or a woman feel when you walk away? When a person feels ignored, we can face various reactions from this:
Close up
It may happen that the person, seeing that you walk away, start to feel the fear of losing you and get closer. Perhaps up to now he had valued you as a person who "always is", "accessible" and who did not need much effort to have you close. This can make the person settle into a more passive role and until they fear the loss of the one next to them, do not put the batteries.
Indifference
It may happen that the purpose of stopping looking for someone was for that person to approach you, well, it is an option -as we have seen well- that can happen, but it can also happen that the person, on the contrary, i ignored you. In other words, you end up having the opposite result to what you wanted to achieve. At this point there may be two possible interpretations:
- The first, that the person has felt undervalued, rejected by your lack of interest and this leads her to show an attitude of indifference, for having offended her feelings and emotions.
- The second, that I ignored you because it doesn't really show the interest that you really expected from that person. I mean, really he does not care to have or not to have your attention.
Inconvenience
The reaction when you stop looking for someone can be upset or offended, who has damaged something inside such as self-esteem. This usually happens in those people who, due to shyness or more introversion towards relationships, find it a little more difficult to establish a relationship with someone. If that person lacks the confidence to take the first step, that you have stopped looking for her may mean the end of your relationship, whatever the type. The feeling of undervaluation for having stopped being there, will lead you to not being able to start the thread that will unite you again.
Anger
Perhaps the person, feeling inattentive, may respond in a more overwhelming way, as is the anger. If you find yourself in a situation like this and you feel that the person you have stopped looking for gets angry, first, ask for respect and then assess why you have stopped looking for it and if you see it relevant for the anger to stop, assertively, you can explain.
Does passing someone else work?
If you pass someone looking for you? Passing someone else can work if we value the previous points.
That is, if we detect that the person does not pay us the attention we would like due to lack of interest and this is given because feels “too accessible”, yes it can work, since you awaken in the person the feeling of “I can to lose". So you have to be proactive about the relationship.
If, on the contrary, the person is not so attentive because her character prevents it, perhaps the way to attract her more is talk it face to face with a sincere conversation. In this article we offer assertive communication techniques and examples.
How do you know if he thinks of you?
As we have seen, when you stop looking for a person, they may think that they do not want you to go away and look for you. But it may also be that it does not matter to you and that the relationship is simply cooling down.
If you are in that process, surely you want to know if this person is thinking of you. There are different ways to know if someone thinks of you or not, and more currently with social networks.
Looks for you on social media
He always sees your pictures or posts and ever reacts to them. It is a way of wanting to establish contact with you again, in a subtle way and without saying it explicitly, look for a conversation thread with which to resume a more constant conversation.
Photos or messages on social networks
There are those who, to get the other person's attention, upload messages or photos to social networks that remind you of the relationship, so that you can see that he or she is still thinking about you.
Ask for you
Perhaps you are part of a group close to each other and you know from third parties that they have been interested in how you are, how everything is going, etc. This is a trick to know if someone is thinking of you. But beware! If you are or have been an important person for him or her, it is normal for him to think of you and ask for you. It is important to know the reason and the purpose, because it can be simple curiosity or even a courtesy question.
Look for conversation topics
You detect that he asks you or speaks to you about anything, he simply wants to start a conversation with you and try to reconnect.
WhatsApp photo
For some meaningful photo for both or bothAlso, if he still wants to let you know more that he thinks of you, he will change it at the moment when you are talking or just then he will open you with the hope that you will comment on the photo or that you will realize that this photo has a meaning for both of them. Therefore, seeing his profile photo is a trick to know if someone is thinking of you.
You may also ask yourself a very common question: If you think about someone a lot, does that someone think about you? In this article we explain why if you think a lot about a person, you attract them.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
If you want to read more articles similar to What does a person think when you stop looking for them, we recommend that you enter our category of Feelings.
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