The human heart is full of contradictions and paradoxes. This is what happens when you ask yourself: "Why does he say that he loves me but he is not with me?" It is natural that in a situation of this type you experience confusion because you do not know why he is saying something that is so incoherent to you. This type of contradiction can make you feel locked in an inner dialogue that doesn't lead to a definitive conclusion. This situation is more frequent than we can imagine. In Psychology-Online, we tell you how to act in this case to take care, above all, of your emotional health. This is the most important thing beyond other external factors since it is essential that you maintain your own inner balance in a context of doubt that shakes your own foundations.
Don't get caught up in trying to interpret and deduce what the other person's behaviors mean. Think of you what to do in that case?
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Don't look for excuses. As much as that person tells you that he loves you, the reality is what it is: he is not with you. And this is significant enough by itself to understand the clear message of the non-correspondence.
- He goes on with your life. The main reason you should take care of yourself and love yourself is because that person can find it very flattering to have you around. However, you do not have the responsibility to feed his ego at the cost of your own pain. So accept this situation and move on with your own life.
- Self-love. That person tells you that he loves you, but he is not with you. In that case, the best you can do is show him that he is not leading you to any kind of self-deception because you have clear ideas. That is, make him see that he should not tell you that he loves you if he does not want to start a relationship.
- Say goodbye to that person to mourn and turn the page. You need to take this time and this distance to think of yourself.
- This is not a drama even if it sounds like it. It is not easy to kill a feeling, however, most people have been through such a situation at some point. As natural as love is heartbreak.
In the next article, we show more tips on how to forget an unrequited love.
When the question "why does he say he loves me but is not with me" resonates in your conscience constantly, try to remember that this fact does not put you in a position of helplessness. That is, just as that person is free to act in this way, so are you you are free to decide to walk away even if he insists that he wants to remain your friend or generates some kind of hope for the future.
It may happen that that person really appreciates you from the level of friendship. However, right now you should think about yourself. Simply because you are not prepared to settle for a friendship relationship if you are in love.
Try to focus on the objective facts of this situation so as not to get caught up in your own trap. language that, added to your own illusion, can take you to the point of living waiting for something to change between you. However, there is nothing more objective than that you are not together in the way that you want.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
