Anyone aspires to feel valued by his boss, however, the reality is that the professional field is also a source of conflict and frustration. When a worker feels that his boss ignores him, this fact produces a lot of psychological exhaustion due to own insecurity that this circumstance generates. Since it is also not a simple situation from the point of view of the employee who is concerned about losing his own job due to this circumstance. In this Psychology-Online article, we answer this question: "My boss ignores me: what do I do?" He faces the situation with optimism and thinks that everything has a solution.
Some bosses are victims of the positive touch economy law itself. That is, they have the mistaken belief that if they praise the worker, he or she will end up being overconfident. Some bosses don't praise workers simply because they take it for granted that doing a good job is their obligation.
So maybe that attitude that you perceive as an indifference means that your boss is satisfied with your work but he is making the mistake of not manifesting it. However, to find the answer you must observe if your boss has the same attitude towards all employees. What are the symptoms that your boss makes you empty, he ignores you or does not value you? Take note:
- You have no voice in business meetings. This is one of the spaces in which this indifference becomes visible. You notice that your boss gives a lot of prominence to other colleagues while you are constantly in the background.
- You put all your efforts to do an excellent job, you complete all your tasks on schedule, however, you do not receive any kind of feedback from your boss even when it comes to very important projects.
- He does not maintain eye contact. One of the most obvious symptoms that a boss empties an employee is that he shows this disinterest by not maintaining eye contact in a conversation.
- He forgets his promises. For example, some time ago he spoke to you about the possibility of evaluating a salary increase, however, he has never resumed that pending conversation. Maybe you had all the necessary merits for that change of position that motivated you so much, however, finally it was someone else who was chosen for the position. When you are a good worker, however, you feel that the merits always go to other colleagues Before you do, you may feel like your boss is ignoring you, at least he doesn't value your talent as much as you deserve. While you take on the heaviest tasks, other colleagues have the possibility of accessing more interesting projects.
- You perceive that he has little sympathy for you. It is not about evaluating this aspect by a specific anecdote, but by the general balance of your general relationship.
Yes you feel that your boss ignores you and does not value you as you deserve in the workplace, you can put the following tips into practice:
- First of all, it is important that be discreet. It is natural that you need to vent about what happened, however, talk about the situation with a person of your highest confidence in your personal life, but do not share comments with your colleagues job. Ask for advice in your closest environment from people who, due to their maturity and experience, can give you a suggestion.
- Some companies offer coaching or mentoring services to the workers. In that case, consult this service since it can be of great help to face this personal situation, being able to treat the case in a context of confidentiality.
- Don't take an inferior role. Even if they are your boss, that person is just like you. Therefore, do not let this situation affect your own safety.
- Take some time to see if the situation improves, as it may only be a temporary period. It may be a temporary episode that evolves over the weeks.
- Talk to your boss. Do not express the message that you feel that he is ignoring you since, precisely, these evaluations can be very subjective. However, you can show your concern about the communication difficulties that you are currently having.
- Ask him for advice on a certain project, in this way, he will notice that you give significant importance to his criteria. Also ask for suggestions on possible improvement options.
- If the situation becomes really complex between you, then consider the possibility of raise the case with superiors. Keep in mind that the experience is going to be difficult.
- Consider the possibility of requesting a job change to become part of another department.
- Don't close the door to the possibility of look for another job in another company.
In the following Psychology-Online article, you can see other good tips to know how to deal with indifference.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
