Couple discussions on whatsapp: how to manage them

Contrary to what is usually believed, it is normal for couples at times to have problems that have to do with coexistence, beliefs, economic problems, among many others that can Appear. The positive thing that these types of problems exist at certain times is that both learn to manage them better and acquire more skills and tools to get ahead. However, all the problems and discussions that arise in the relationship if they are carried out at the least appropriate times and through the less favorable media such as whatsapp, the number of misunderstandings can multiply and therefore complicate the situation much more.

Currently, more and more couples use means such as WhatsApp to try to resolve their conflicts or There may even be no conflict at first, but from one moment to the next it arises from a bad interpretation. That is why in this Psychology-Online article, we are going to talk about the couple discussions on whatsapp: how to manage them. In addition, we are going to give you some tips to prevent them from arising.

Index

1. Misunderstandings by whatsapp: how they happen
2. How to manage couple discussions on whatsapp
3. Therapy for constant couple discussions

As I mentioned earlier, it is completely normal that at some point couple discussions. The problem comes when these discussions are becoming more constant and intense and how they are not managed well or solve at the time, it becomes more and more complicated to reduce them and solve those differences with the partner.

WhatsApp is an excellent means of communication that undoubtedly turns out to be quite positive to be more in contact with the couple, especially for those couples who live apart. However, when it comes to trying to manage and resolve conflicts in the couple, it is a fairly limited means and that can even cause the situation to get worse. This is because it is obviously not the same to talk and solve problems with your partner in person or If this cannot be done at least by phone (although it is not ideal either) than to do it through chat written.

Through written chat, people cannot really know how things are being said to them and this leads to misinterpretations. As much as WhatsApp has tools such as emoticons that are intended to help express emotions, it will never be the same to be seeing the facial expression of the person live and in direct. On the other hand, apart from facial expression, it is very important to listen to the voice of the other person to empathize better with her and recognize her emotions and feelings through her tone of voice.

How to act after an argument

When the misunderstanding occurs through WhatsApp, it is important to know how to manage the situation. Sometimes we can feel confused and wonder "after a fight, who should call?"And the truth is that, in order to solve this type of situation, we must follow the advice that we offer below.

To know how to manage couple discussions on whatsapp, the first thing is to mention that the most Recommended to manage couple discussions is that they be resolved in person, face to face expensive. If you are away from your partner and it is difficult for you to go to see her or for her to go to see you to have a face-to-face conversation, you must take into account the following aspects to avoid misunderstandings by whatsapp:

• Avoid arguing over written chat. When you notice that there are disagreements in the conversation, that you feel that what they are talking about is about sensitive topics where an argument is likely to arise or you want to communicate something important to your partner, choose not to do it by chat written. If your partner starts arguing with you via written chat, before continuing to reply, let him know that you prefer to clarify things by other means since you do not want there to be misunderstandings. Surely your partner will agree with that and although at that moment they cannot speak through another means, it will be more worth waiting for them to do so.
• Take advantage of the new modalities of whatssap. Fortunately there are other means that facilitate communication with another person, in this case the WhatsApp now not only allows you to communicate by written chat, but also by video call or call. So before using chat to resolve your differences with your partner, choose better to use other means where you can at least hear his voice.
• Avoid reacting on impulse. If your partner has written something to you that at the time has bothered you a lot and you feel a strong urge to answer him wrong, instead, take a deep breath and ask your partner that you prefer to talk about what he is telling you by other means since there may be a bad understood. Many times we react on impulse and start a meaningless discussion due to the misinterpretation we give at the time. In this case, it is important to relax and learn to argue as a couple.

If after many attempts to manage the discussions with your partner, you notice that they do not decrease or unless it is impossible for them to manage them no matter how hard they try to do it, it is recommended that they go to couple therapy. You will wonder how they can do it if they are living far from each other, so if that is your case, you should know that currently this is not a problem since there is apart from conventional psychological therapy, the modality on-line.

Through online modeThey can both carry out a couples therapy that will also be effective and that will help them to improve their relationship without any doubt. Sessions are usually conducted through video calls by skype where individual or group consultations are held with the psychologist. In this case, for example, on some occasion you will make a video call by yourself with the psychologist and when in some moments also with your partner, that is, the 3 will be seeing each other through the computer live and in direct. The psychologist will serve as a mediator and therapy will be carried out in the same way as if it were in person.

This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.

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