Trust is one of the most important ingredients in a love story. There are different situations in which a person may feel that he mistrusts her partner, in this article that we publish in Psychology-Online we analyze three examples that can serve as reference. "I no longer trust my partner: what do I do?"If you feel identified with this question, try to identify what is the cause of what happens to you and adopt a new attitude to external events. Do not act indifferently, trusting that this fact will be solved without doing anything. You have to get involved to redirect this situation.
When you meet a person, their past is part of their biography. Like you, your partner has also had a previous personal history. Just as you would not like your partner to judge events that are part of your life, it is important that you avoid your partner's past become an obstacle to happiness in the present.
That does not mean that a person's past cannot be significant in relation to lack of confidence. For example, if a person distrusts his partner because he knows previous episodes in which he was unfaithful in different relationships, then, distrust is not conditioned solely by this point, but by the belief that it has not changed. That is, you think you can repeat behaviors from the past in the present.
If you do not trust your partner because of his past, try to analyze objectively what reasons you have to feel that yesterday's chapter affects you directly. For example, this reality can affect you if you feel that your partner is still the same person as then, that is, if you believe that he has not evolved from that moment.
What can you do if you don't trust your partner because of his past?
- He identifies what it is that ingredient from his past that makes you suffer especially. What is your fear?
- Talk to your partner. The dialogue around this topic can be therapeutic since it can give you its point of view and show itself to you in all its essence. For example, it may happen that through their words you realize that you have no reason to distrust.
- Have gratitude towards the past. Actually, thanks to the path that your partner has traveled, he has come this far. And in the current situation it is part of your life.
If you do not trust your partner despite the fact that he does not objectively give you compelling reasons to do so, then it can be positive to ask for psychological help to overcome this emotional insecurity in the partner in a therapeutic process that allows you to know yourself better and deepen your inner world.
If you do not trust your partner but he does not give you reasons, it is important that, at least, you become aware of it. That is, you cannot hold him responsible for what happens to you. If on a rational level you are aware that even if you do not trust your partner, he does not give you reason to doubt him, try to repeat this message more frequently. Also share it with people you trust who know your story. Try to focus on the story as it is.
Focus on your present. Perhaps your fear is conditioned by the vertigo of the uncertainty of the future. However, no one can know exactly what will happen five years from now. Therefore, fix your mind and your heart in the now.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
