If you're wondering how to be proactive in a relationship right now, it's probably because Failure to do so may be causing problems either with your current partner or with your partners previous. It can also happen to you that you would simply like to change the passive attitude that you feel that until now you have been manifesting in your relationships.
What is preventing you from taking the initiative in a relationship? How can you take the initiative sexually with your partner? In this Psychology-Online article, we are going to give you a series of tips that you can take into account to know how to have initiative in a relationship.
The reasons why you are having a lack of initiative with your partner vary from one person to another and you also have to take into account the situation in which each one finds himself. However, below we are going to expose you what are the main causes why this happens.
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Factors related to personality. There are certain personality traits that influence one person to have more initiative than another. Some of these traits can be, for example, those related to shyness, low self-esteem, insecurity, passive-aggressive personality traits, etc.
- Disinterest. Lack of interest is one of the triggers that makes it difficult for a person to have their own initiative. It may be that you do not feel completely comfortable in your relationship, that they have fallen into monotony and each time feel one or both more decided to get out of there or that you simply do not feel a real desire to have initiative own.
- Your partner always takes the initiative. Another possible reason is that your partner always takes the initiative and you find it comfortable to take the position of passivity.
- Fear of doing new things. There are people who are very afraid of daring to do different things so they are used to other people always taking the initiative. Taking the initiative implies in some way "risking" that what is done or planned does not work as one wants and that is what can generate a certain fear and insecurity.
The lack of incentive in a couple relationship and any other type of relationship such as friendship, can, on occasions, lead to cause some type of conflict that, although it is not something serious or attempts against someone else, can sometimes cause a breakdown of the relationship. The fact that a woman or a man does not have initiative in a relationship is not enough reason why your partner wants to end the relationship, however, it is true that doing so gives it a different and special touch from which certain Benefits
Here are some tips so that you can have more initiative in your relationship.
Plans to get out of the routine
Get in the habit of constantly proposing to your partner different plans than those they usually do. Investigate what other options they have for going out and enjoy your free time that both attract their attention and that until now they have not carried out. Avoid falling into monotony or having your partner suggest what to do all the time.
Avoid saying "I don't know"
It usually happens in some couples that when deciding what to do they are finally left without doing anything for the time they lose by being undecided. So try that every time a similar situation happens and your partner asks you what to do or where you want to go, in Instead of responding with "I don't know" as you normally would, propose something specific even if you don't have it Sure. If you want to know more about this tip, we recommend you read the following article: some ideas to overcome indecision.
Lose the fear
It is necessary that so that you can begin to have initiative in your relationship with your partner and even in any type of relationship that you lose the fear that something could “go wrong”. Remember that nothing ventured nothing gained and if you want to avoid falling into monotony or that your partner in this case gets bored by doing always the same or because she is always the one who takes the initiative, you have to dare despite the afraid. With practice that fear that you now have will diminish and little by little you will get used to adopting this type of attitude.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
