A sullen person is not sociable and refuses to deal with and talk with people. The sullen people receive the world in a distorted way, since they interpret social relationships as a constant threat and they think that all people want to harm them, and that is why it is so difficult for them to relate to others. Do you have friends what happens to them? You can help him to be better. Keep reading!
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- Express what you feel
- Tell him what to improve
- Ask for changes
- What if it doesn't change?
Express what you feel.
If your sullen friend has done something to you that has bothered you, you must be sincere and explain that you feel upset, angry or sad and why. Be clear and concise in your words. You should also accept your responsibility if at any time you have been overly sensitive to their comments and tell them so.
Tell him what to improve.
Explain what has bothered you And what do you hope will change to improve your relationship, explain the positive consequences and make it clear that that way you will feel more comfortable and he or she will too.
Also, to make him aware of things, describe the situations in which he behaves in an unbearable way, for example: "When you talk to me, you do it in a very high and insulting tone."
Ask for changes.
Clearly ask him to change your attitude: "I would like you to speak to me in a pleasant way and without yelling, so that we can speak better."
What if it doesn't change?
If even after all your attempts and all your patience you see that he does not change his attitude and remains exactly the same in his behavior, then, advise him of the consequences negative that will bring you.
Make it clear to him that with that attitude and his refusal to change are emotionally distancing because you do not have to put up with that behavior from anyone and that it is in their power to be prevented.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
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