Trust is a term we often use to describe and justify everything. On many occasions, using trust or mistrust with or towards a person can generate misunderstandings, since they are used to using different definitions depending on the area in which you have grown up or the culture in which you have been raised.
Trust is the belief that a person or group will want to act in the way we expect in a given situation. Therefore, it will be more or less reinforced depending on the actions and values. In short, we can say that trust is built. So, what could have happened so that your partner does not trust you? Why don't you trust? What can you do to make him more confident? If you are interested in answering these questions, in this Psychology-Online article we answer your question about why my partner doesn't trust me and what to do.
The most frequent reasons for which mistrust is generated in a couple are cheating and infidelity. These situations alter the expectation of trust, causing mistrust to gain ground in the relationship and that the person no longer believes you when you tell him what you feel, what you are going to do or what you would like for a future.
When infidelities appear, everything that person had believed about you and how you were or what you did, falters and stops making sense. If you find yourself in this unpleasant situation, in this article you will see how to deal with infidelity.
Feelings of trust quickly turn into mistrust, but not the other way around. When someone trusts a person, he can come to doubt for a few moments, without having to imply full distrust. On the contrary, a person who mistrusts the other increases intolerance and uncertainty, installing doubt in the relationship.
So what do you do when a person doesn't trust you? That mistrust exists does not mean that all is lost. Here are some methods or tricks you can use to make your partner trust you again:
- share time together: it is in these moments when the person rediscovers what kind of person he has next to him. Devoting time to him will help him feel calmer, that is, it will foster familiarity, transforming what has happened to be unknown to us into known.
- Take an interest in your needs and try to cover them so that he can trust you again, as long as it falls within your limits and you see it as acceptable.
- It is necessary to take risks: trust implies taking a risk that, if you do not want to take it, will be very difficult to overcome.
- Don't avoid confrontation: seeks the negotiation of the new conditions and uses an appropriate resolution in situations where the conflict arises.
- redo details and share intimate moments in the couple little by little.
- Be willing to change and create new agreements in the relationship.
In this article, we show you more information about how to overcome mistrust in the couple.
What to say to your partner when he distrusts you
In these situations, it is important that you convey the following messages:
- Let him know how you feel and what you think about the situation that has brought you here.
- Try to provide a space in which to talk quietly.
- Ask him what he needs to trust you again and if he wants to.
- Be transparent with your partner.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
