As social beings that we are, we need a certain connectivity and feeling of belonging to others. This is the reason that satisfying social relationships increase our self-esteem. Therefore, we like to interact with other people and we obtain reinforcement from each interaction we make in our day to day life and that makes us feel happy.
"How do I communicate better with others?"
Interactions can occur verbally or non-verbally, with a gesture we are already establishing an interaction. An essential element of successful social relationships is proper communication. But what do we mean by this? In this Psychology-Online article we tell you how to communicate better with others.
A typical communication model It includes a sender, a receiver, and a verbal or non-verbal message that is encoded by the sender and decoded by the receiver. In addition, there is also feedback, which is the response that the sender emits of the received message, as well as noise, something that can affect communication.
Coding refers to the transformation that the sender makes of a thought into a communicable message. The receiver, on the other hand, interprets what he receives as a message (verbal or non-verbal).
Of course, as you can imagine a lot happens in the medium since there is no decoded message without bias. The way we decode a message is never really objective. We all have our own filters and explanatory styles that make up the photograph of the world we perceive. What makes the communication process more complex is the fact that the sender of the message almost never provides only factual information.
According to some communication models, a message has 4 facets:
- On what do i report (data, facts, statements ...)
- What i reveal about myself (information about the issuer)
- Relations. What i think about you
- What do I want the other person to do
To know how to better communicate with others, you have to take into account the 4 characteristics of the message. The next time you consider that something is not right in the communication, remember the initial message and consider the 4 aspects of the message. Actually this technique for effective communication it is about looking for other alternatives to the interpretation we have made of the message.
It is normal to get angry in the context of a relationship, everyone has reached that point. What really matters is that you resolve conflicts in a healthy way. Here are some tips for communicate appropriately when you are angry:
In order to
If you're really mad about something, stop, step back, and breathe. Tell the other person that you would like to take a break before continuing the conversation. Give yourself time to calm down by doing some relaxing activity for yourself: talking with a friend, watching TV, watching a video, walking, listening to music or whatever will help you relax. Take a break It can help you maintain the situation and prevent it from getting worse.
Think
When you are no longer angry or disappointed, think about the situation and why you got upset. Find out and identify the real problem and then think about how you can explain your feelings.
Speaks
Finally, after following the steps above, talk to the other person about the real problem.
Listens
After telling your partner how you feel, remember to stop talking and let the other person say what they have to say. You should both have the opportunity to express how you feel in a safe and healthy context.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
