For Ana M. Bastida of Miguel. March 12, 2018
Self-esteem has a lot to do with self-concept, which is the way each one perceives himself. This "self-concept" is built throughout life through the information that comes to us from others and that is added to the concept that one is forming of oneself. Hence, a good self-esteem usually causes a positive chain effect in people's lives and this in turn will allow the different processes we have to face to face with confidence, motivation and an extra dose of optimism. With these elements, it is obvious to think that those who enjoy high self-esteem have a greater probability of succeeding in personal, work, family and social life.
Stated as "I can't" or "It's impossible"should be exchanged for more positive ones like "I could try" or "I'll try" "I can try "" If I don't try, I'll never know "" Who does it right the first time? "So as not to close the mind or the doors to more optimistic possibilities.
The same happens with the opinion about the defects themselves, which appear as sentences that negatively evaluate us. It is advisable to modify them for more positive ones that enhance the qualities more than the defects.
However, if it becomes too difficult to replace them, you can resort to placing a "But" at the end of the sentence to introduce any of the personal qualities that help to be more optimistic: "It will cost me to get it," but "I will keep my constancy to try it" "I will follow it trying".
The way we value ourselves determines something as important as performance capacity or social competence. Low self-esteem can translate into poor performance or poor social skills.
The effects of low self-esteem are often very negative. The person who is not satisfied with himself will hardly face life with the necessary decision and optimism. This deficit leads to a lack of confidence and insecurity and becomes one more reason to reinforce the negative assessment that a person makes of himself.
It is what is known as "The self-fulfilling prophecy", an effect that occurs when someone does not value himself enough, performs below his possibilities and generates a circuit closed of events in which low self-esteem remains below normal, as the "bad" results confirm the poor opinion that a person has of himself same.
People are complex and very difficult to define in a few words. How there are so many nuances to take into account it is important not to make generalizations from one or two aspects. For example:
- We can be very talkative with friends and be very quiet at home.
- Being a bad soccer player does not indicate that we are a disaster in all sports.
- That we fail an exam does not mean that we do not serve for studies.
Let's not limit ourselves by labeling ourselves negatively and let's not close the doors to other possibilities.
Be careful with labels, making a mistake or doing something wrong, at a certain moment, does not mean that we are clumsy, lazy, or any other negative attribute. It means that we have done something to learn and thanks to it we have made a mistake, but also thanks to it, we can grow, improve ourselves and come out of it tremendously strengthened.
Self-esteem and self-concept are two terms that help us understand what we feel towards ourselves.
- The SELFCONCEPT it refers to the perception that one has of oneself. It is our own description of how we see ourselves.
- The SELF ESTEEM it refers to the value we give to that image of ourselves, in other words, to the love we have for ourselves for being who we are.
The role that parents play will be essential in this process of maturing self-esteem.
Self-esteem is one of the most important aspects in the development of the child. A child who does not love himself, who sees himself as someone who does not deserve the affection of others or who feels useless, clumsy or lazy. You will hardly be able to achieve an adequate level of development in any facet of your life.
Without self-confidence, without the feeling of loving oneself and being loved, nAdie is able to enjoy life nor to develop properly.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
