The unhappiness it is as real as joy itself, however, when we are at that point of negativity we must take special care not to add even greater burden to our emotional state. What things should you not do when you are unhappy?
What you should not do if you are unhappy is position yourself in the role of victim because all the people of this world have suffered and have a history. If you listen more to others and open your heart to the world, you will become aware of how your own pain is relative, compared to many other cases.
When you are unhappy, you better don't be continually thinking about the past, carrying the frustrations, failures and hurts of yesterday. Close that chapter. If you relive it every day, then you are prolonging every pain from then.
What you should not do in these circumstances is consider yourself a victim of chance when in reality, as the protagonist, you can make changes in your existence. But for this, increase your creativity and stop complaining so often. If you are unhappy, do not think that this will always be the case because both joy and pain have a beginning and an end.
Another thing that we should not do when we are unhappy is to make our own dissatisfaction an excuse to make life bitter for others, especially those closest to us. Very often, a person unleashes his own anger and frustrations against the one closest to him. And this only has a negative effect on personal relationships.
If you are going through a situation of this type, I suggest you not look negatively at sadness because this feeling also allows you to know yourself. For it, change your attitude and try to learn from this. Many people who have gone through a situation of unhappiness, after they become a reference for others.
Do not become obsessed with your own suffering, with that point that generates intense pain. It is important that you open new doors on an emotional level, that you focus more on those aspects of your life that are most pleasant for you.
When life and the world hurts, sometimes we want to close ourselves off as if we were snails that have their own protection. However, this only increases the pain. When we lock ourselves in, we get stuck at one point. Remember that the Earth continues to rotate and you with it. Grow, advance and evolve, transforming this pain into hope.
You don't have to blame others or compare those around you with people you see as perfect. One of the great effects of unhappiness is the inferiority complex. From this perspective, you look at the negative of those around you and idealize those whom you do not know as much, and for this reason, you cannot realistically know their defects either.
In order to stop being unhappy it stops putting the optics in a kind of ideal world that should be given in a necessary way. Many people live with the permanent idea that "life is not fair." And it is true, the criterion of justice does not govern our existence at all times.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
