A lie is very uncomfortable for those who discover the deception and feel cheated on an emotional level. When a person discovers a lie, he does not understand the reason that has led the other to act that way. For this reason, the first step you should take when you find out that someone has lied to you is to talk to them to get their point of view.
In that case, listen openly and remember that there is a big difference between hearing and listening. What you should not do when a person lies to you is to judge the entire relationship based on that specific fact, drawing general conclusions. That a person has lied does not mean that he is a liar as a general rule. Keep reading this article and know how to act when a person lies to you.
The usual thing when a person discovers that he has been deceived is to fall into accusations when it is more effective to explain from the self how it made you feel that particular situation. For example, you can explain that you have felt undervalued. This type of communication encourages more empathy.
In the event that it is a person who has already lied to you several times, then it is important that you be clear and put your cards on the table in relation to what you expect from a relationship. Do not ask for something that you are not willing to offer. In the event that you do not notice any change in the other person, you can consider reducing the contact to a minimum or even cutting that relationship because a bond without trust loses meaning.
That a person has lied to you is not a reason for you to resort to the same error in your treatment of them. Be sincere even if it costs you and say what you think. Face that reality as an opportunity to grow as a person.
Also, when a person has lied to you, do not tell that anecdote before the whole environment and do not put a person in evidence.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
