The vast majority of people have at least in mind, a series of plans and objectives that we want to achieve. However, there are also people who, despite their short-term plans, have a hard time getting down to work and starting to carry out what they want. desire and this not only affects them in that their dreams and desires are frustrated, but also their self-esteem and emotional well-being are affected in general. But why does this happen? If you feel identified with this situation, do not think that you are weird and that everyone else can do it and you cannot, in fact this It is something very common in society, however it does not mean that you have to settle for that and put aside your goals personal
In this Psychology-Online article, we will answer your question: Why is it so hard for me to do things? Letting you know what are the most common reasons why this happens and we will give you some tips to put laziness aside.
It is true that there are people who, without hesitation, begin to carry out those actions that are aimed at those
Next, we are going to mention what they are the most common reasons why people generally have such a hard time doing things.
Low tolerance to frustration
There are people who have a hard time starting to do something new or even things that they have to do on a day-to-day basis because they can't stand that something doesn't turn out the way they want it to. They cannot bear to experience even a minimum level of discomfort since from a young age they were used to having any kind of unpleasant situation solved for them. This in the long run, especially in the adult world, brings them many problems since it is when they are most forced to perform all kinds of tasks that may not be to their liking. So there is a certain resistance to carrying out these types of activities and as a result they experience increasing discomfort as time passes.
Afraid
How many times have you stopped doing something you want out of fear? Fear is one of the main factors why people stop doing the things we want. It is not only about making our dreams and / or personal goals come true since sometimes the same fear stops us even from carrying carry out everyday actions that do not have a great meaning for us but are necessary to meet our needs basic. It must be taken into account that fear can often be disguised as other things such as apathy and laziness for example. The key to getting ahead in these cases will be oriented to knowing how to cure fear.
Lack of motivation
Lack of motivation is another of the most common reasons why a person has such a hard time getting things done. When we meet unmotivated It is because the things that we do or in this case that we intend to do, do not have a true meaning for us and we only want to do them "to do something". For example, if it is difficult for us to go to work or do the tasks that we are asked there to do, surely it is because we do not like that job and because it is even too unpleasant for us to have to be there. So it is normal that in this case it costs us so much to do things since that work does not mean nothing for us and we are there solely to obtain the money necessary to cover our needs.
Indecision
When We are not sure of what we want in life, we do not know where we are going and we do not have any plan or personal goal in mind, it is normal that we go through one or more periods of indecision. Surely by pretending to do something that you are not sure you really want to do, just thinking about yourself will stop you It really is something you want, if you are doing it to do and / or for other reasons that do not fit with what you want. This happens very often when we do not know ourselves well, which is reflected in going through life without knowing exactly where we want to go and therefore always falls on the indecision.
When a person suffers from some type of mental or psychological disorder, being the most common in these cases, anxiety, depression, sleep disorders, etc. Brain chemistry is affected, so the same amount of neurotransmitters is not produced as being in optimal and normal health.
For example, a disorder like the Depression, can cause the person to experience extreme tiredness accompanied by extremely negative thoughts that in combination prevent you from getting up and starting your personal goals and even your activities everyday.
In the case of anxiety For example, if a person suffers from social phobia and he needs to talk about a topic in front of a group of people to carry out his personal goals or just to do his job correctly, it is It is normal that he feels quite intense discomfort just thinking that he has to do it, so he will want to postpone that threatening moment for as long as possible (she).
If you have a sleep disorder and it is not possible to fall asleep throughout the night and the next day it is necessary to carry out the activities daily routine in the morning, the person will feel extremely tired and will have a hard time being able to even get up from bed. In these cases it is not a question of laziness and it is not something that the person can control so easily since being a disease requires a specific treatment to heal and correct it.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
