Crying is a natural instinct. A response of the human being to a variety of situations and a form of communication in the first stage of life.
Babies cry to express a need: hunger, pain, sleep, fatigue... As we grow, the reasons why We cry they change and crying becomes a response to emotions as different as sadness, joy or Rage.
When crying is uncontrollable it can affect us in different areas. In this Psychology-Online article we teach you some guidelines about how to stop crying when that natural response is out of your control.
Index
- I can't stop crying, is it normal?
- Why do I constantly want to cry?
- How to stop crying about everything
- How to act when you can't control crying
- How to stop crying for someone
I can't stop crying, is it normal?
Crying is a physiological response to the processing of emotions that produce a strong mental activation. In general, it is a natural and adaptive response that is usually useful in terms of that allows us to express emotions
As with many other issues, crying is considered normal until it begins to interfere with the normal development of life. Although there are stages of our life in which it is considered normal for crying to occur during a period longer, such as when there is a loss (death of someone close, separation, etc). In the following article you will find information about the processes of Grief in the event of Significant Losses
Why do I constantly want to cry?
The causes of crying are emotional tension and intensity, which can occur for different reasons:
Stressful events and losses
As we have seen, constantly crying can be explained as a response to a loss of someone or something in our life or situations of stress and great changes.
Mood disorders
When you do not know why you are crying and yet you cannot stop crying, it is likely that this crying is explained by the existence of a depressive disorder. It is one of the ways to differentiate sadness from depression. Here you will find more information about the why the urge to cry for no apparent reason. What is certain is that the constant and continuous desire to cry over time is due to the fact that there islatent malaise.
Personality traits
Another reason for constant crying is associated with certain personality traits. For example, people who score high on neuroticism are more prone to crying, as well as expressing other emotions. In this article you can see how it is and the characteristics of a neurotic person.
Hormonal factors
Internal factors and processes also play a role in the likelihood of crying. Hormonal changes can make us more sensitive to emotions temporarily, which would explain more intense responses to those emotions, such as crying.
How to stop crying about everything.
Our emotions are the product of our interpretation of reality, which is why on many occasions the intensity of emotions is disproportionate to the events.
1. Identify the cause
If you have been feeling more sensitive and vulnerable to events for a while and you notice that you cry for things that you did not do before, it is necessary to find out if something is wrong. It can be the effect of some medication you are taking, hormonal changes, unresolved problems or that you are suffering from undiagnosed depression.
2. Address the cause
Once you identify the reason (s) that lead you to constant crying, it is time to act.
- For medical problems consult with your doctor.
- If the problems are psychological it is recommended go to therapy. A depression needs effective treatment to be overcome. The cognitive behavioral therapy it is the one that has shown the greatest efficacy in the treatment of depressive disorders. Within this intervention, the cognitive part focuses on modifying the thoughts that make you interpret events in an unrealistic and maladaptive way, and change them for more realistic. This will allow the emotions you experience to be more in line with what is happening to you. Also, an erroneous belief system makes your interpretation of events unrealistic, therefore reviewing and adapting it is necessary for healthy emotional expression.
How to act when you can't control crying.
How to control crying? You can follow these guidelines to calm yourself down:
3. Question thoughts
Identify the negative thoughts that are appearing and submit them to a reality test. It is the basis of cognitive restructuring.
4. Use breathing techniques
Use diphragmatic or abdominal breathing to divert your attention from negative thoughts and focus on breathing. Here you will see the diaphragmatic breathing exercises explained step by step.
5. Write
Write what you are feeling. It will help you better manage your emotions and see them from another perspective. Also, it is a good task for improve your emotional intelligence.
6. Smile
Try to adopt positions incompatible with crying to, as far as possible, break the crying cycle.
7. Use relaxation techniques
Try to relax through some relaxation technique and / or visualizations. You will find a visualization at the end of this article.
8. Get distracted
Distract yourself from your thoughts. Focus your attention on an object or landscape, put on upbeat music, or read a lighthearted story.
How to stop crying for someone.
Crying for someone usually involves a loss, which implies a grieving process, whether this loss is due to a sentimental breakup or death. Grief is a natural and necessary process to overcome the loss or learn to live without the person who is lost.
How to stop crying for love? If you cry for one sentimental break These recommendations can help you:
9. Apply zero contact
Eliminate all possible contact with that person. Social networks, instant messaging, phone calls. This avoids prolonging unnecessary suffering.
10. Occupy time
Take up your time. Staying busy will make it easier for you to distract yourself from the sadness of loss. Think activities that you want to do, plan and reward yourself when you have done them.
11. Lean on loved ones
Spend time with friends and family. Social relationships keep you from isolating yourself and improve your mood.
12. Focus on the reasons for the breakup
Remember everything you didn't like about that person. After a breakup we have a skewed memory of our ex-partner, we tend to remember what we liked and to forget what tormented us.
13. Take care of yourself
Take some time to focus on yourself. Many times we make the mistake of looking for a new relationship after a breakup. But if you are not prepared or ready, that new relationship will probably fail. That is why it is important that you take some time for yourself and conclude what you want and what you do not want from a new relationship before starting it.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
If you want to read more articles similar to How to stop crying, we recommend that you enter our category of Clinical psychology.
Bibliography
- Barragan, A. (2016) How to control any emotion step by step. Amazon.
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