Masturbation is still presented in our society today as a taboo subject that generates many stigmas. There are many questions that young people and older people frequently ask themselves in relation to masturbation: is it okay to masturbate; It is normal; it can be harmful; is it bad to masturbate too much? This set of questions arises from the stigmatization that has been given to this act, defining masturbation as a pathological fact that entails negative consequences for our Health. However, it is known that masturbation contributes to increased physical, mental and sexual health.
On the other hand, it should be noted that masturbation has always been more accepted from the male side and the man expresses his consolidation with greater openness. Faced with this, social attitudes and concerns arise such as: Is it normal for my boyfriend to masturbate a lot?, keep reading this Psychology-Online article to know the answer.
Index
- What is masturbation?
- Masturbation in men and women
- Masturbation and guilt
- When is masturbation excessive?
- Is it normal for my boyfriend to masturbate a lot?
What is masturbation?
Masturbation is understood as any act that involves a self-stimulation in order to obtain or increase the sexual satisfaction. Masturbation has been the subject of taboos and great myths, causing a strong stigmatization of the act and negative social attitudes in this regard.
However, masturbation helps the person to get to know each other better sexually, produces a space of intimacy and increases your physical, mental and sexual health. On the other hand, it should be noted that its excessive or compulsive expression can be related as a symptom of a psychiatric or psychological disorder.
Masturbation in men and women.
Many studies show the evidence that learning about sexuality, specifically, in the face of self-stimulation, comes in different ways depending on gender. When the concern and exploration of sexuality is born in childhood and adolescence, children talk to their peers about it and get more information from different media divulgation. Against, masturbation in women has been socially more repressed and censored, causing that this self-discovery is not shared among women and remains as an intimate and personal issue, causing it to be difficult for them to recognize masturbation directly and in some cases, even inhibiting the possibility of masturbation due to the social connotation that it represents in the woman.
It should be noted that, due to these factors, boys begin to masturbate earlier than girls and over time. This behavior continues, while in women, as it is not recognized socially, it occurs in a lesser frequency.
Masturbation and guilt.
The social stigmatization around masturbation has caused its act to produce in many people elevated feelings of guilt and shame upon completion, despite the many benefits it brings. Although they have disproved the vast majority of myths Concerning masturbation, the concern about masturbating "too much" is still growing and above all it is a concern that is born in women towards men. When women find themselves socially repressed in the face of this act, they may come to think that male masturbation can become excessive, however there is no excess masturbation as such, unless it is related to a symptom of a psychiatric or psychological disorder.
When is masturbation excessive?
Although masturbation has great benefits for the well-being of the person, it is not always normal and healthy. Sometimes, it can be a pathological reaction and is considered as such when it is reduced to the only way of obtaining pleasure and stress relief, however, behaviors that aim to reduce anxiety should not be considered a symptom unless they are what interfere in the day to day of the person, causing him to fail to fulfill the responsibilities of her by being able to agree on the act.
In such a case, there are various psychological disorders in which the compulsive masturbation could be considered a symptom, What:
- Sexual abuse
- Intellectual disability
- Alcohol and / or other substance abuse
- Mania or hypomania
- Psychosis
- Obsessive compulsive disorder
- Anxiety disorders
- Paraphilias
- Personality disorders
- Sex addiction or hypersexuality
Is it normal for my boyfriend to masturbate a lot?
Due to the great myths established around this subject, masturbation has been socially associated with sexual dissatisfaction or as substitution of sex, believing that it is a more frequent act in those people who are single, but this is a vision very far from the reality.
Masturbation is more frequent in those people who maintain stable relationships, living with their partners or in marriage. In addition, in men there is a increased testosterone levels when they are in a relationship that allows them to be able to have sex more frequently, so they feel the need to perform this act with more frenquency. These factors lead us to discard the theory that masturbation is a sign of sexual failure or dissatisfaction.
In general, men tend to suppress such information when they are in a relationship, but this should not be alarming. If your partner does not tell you that he has masturbated, it is not because the sexual interest he had in you has disappeared, nor that sexual problems in the couple, but rather because various concerns are born in them caused by the social connotation it represents, such as: "my partner might think that if I masturbate I no longer feel like sleeping with her." A fact that must be understood by women, and which has not been understood by all the myths offered on the subject of masturbation, is that the fact that the man masturbates does not imply a replacement of sex with the partner or someone else.
Faced with all this, the question: is it normal for my boyfriend to masturbate a lot? The answer is yes.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
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- Knowles, J. (2002). Masturbation: from stigma to sexual health. Planned Parenthood, 212-261.
