¿How to be a friend while in love of that person? This question raises an inner conflict of its own. The person who is in love in reality has no objective reason to feel resentment towards the other but carries an inner struggle that hurts him. This inner struggle shows two sides of the balance: the debate is to bet on friendship or give everything for lost.
Each person reacts in a different way to the same situation. In love, there are no general recipes since each person has to find their formula to live in balance with herself.
It is difficult to love and be a friend at the same time because love originally requires a correspondence. On the other hand, the one who gives the best of himself and receives friendship in return, feels empty, feels that what he has does not fulfill him and wants more. That more sounds strongly in the conscience of the lover.
Confusing love and friendship can make that when the moment comes, the one who has fallen into self-deception gets angry with himself for having given so much to another person.
Assess the situation objectively because you may want to be friends with someone you like. For it, analyze the situation in the long term. Think that you are not going to be eternally in love, there will come a time when that someone will be totally indifferent to you on a sentimental level. And then, you may be happy to have that person among your friends.
Visualize the situation and listen to your emotions to know what you want. In order to be friends with that person, you have to forget about them first. To do this, reduce the contact for a while. And avoid turning friendship into an excuse to win him over.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
