There is no total equality in the moment in which one person apologizes to another after an offense and that moment in which the offended person decides or not to forgive the injury. It is easier to ask for forgiveness and rectify after a failure than to offer forgiveness in a disinterested way because what is human is that there is pain in the heart. Depending on the hurtreceived, the natural tendency is to mark a distance from the person who caused the injury. It is an act of sheer emotional survival.
As much as a person asks you for forgiveness after a certain event, that does not mean that you have a moral obligation to excuse him and that everything goes back to the way it was before. Inner freedom is one of the most powerful goods, for this reason, it is also an act of wisdom to mark distance with falsefriendships who showed themselves as they are after a betrayal.
Forgiveness is one thing and quite another to continue nurturing that relationship as if nothing had happened. Of course, there are also many situations and relationships in which forgiveness is a very necessary act of love because being
Askforgiveness it is much easier because it is easier to have a clear awareness of having harmed another than to heal all the internal wounds at once due to the damage received by someone external. For a person who has experienced a heartbreak and has felt that someone was playing with her feelings, it is not easy to pretend nothing had happened.
For this reason, it is convenient to think about the consequences of the acts before carrying them out because not always asking for forgiveness solves everything. And it is essential to respect the rhythms of each person because in many cases, those who are hurt need moreweather to forgive everything. Sooner or later, it is positive to forgive because it is an act of releaseemotional.
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