How to overcome a break of couple

Most people have gone through or will go through, at least once in their life, the devastating experience of having your heart broken. No one is immune from a breakup. This can cause psychological damage that impacts us in multiple ways: depression, insomnia, apathy, anxiety, intrusive thoughts, etc. And between snot and Bustamante songs you consider how to continue with your life. And luckily (or by search), you find this article from Psychology-Online about How to overcome a break of couple in which we are going to help you and give you some key tips to know what to do to overcome a couple breakup.

Index

1. How to overcome a couple breakdown according to psychology
2. How to get over a long-standing breakup
3. How to get over a toxic breakup
4. How long does it take to get over a breakup?

When we are in a relationship, our brain secretes hormones that give us pleasure, well-being, happiness. These also help us to strengthen the

One of the things that characterize the ruptures is the subsequent search for an explanation for that ending. We believe that if we are clear about why our partner has left us, that if we understand exactly why they have decided to end our relationship, we will be able to overcome it more easily. But knowing the reason is often not enough, because for us it's such a dramatic and painful event that for our mind there must be an equally dramatic motive. However, the explanation is often too simple for our logic to assume.

So we try to recover from that breakup and in doing so, we make some mistakes that unnecessarily lengthen our suffering. These are, for example:

• Check your Instagram or other social networks
• Write him messages, look at his last connection
• Check if you have read us or have seen us
• Remember the good things about the relationship
• Think and relive the beautiful and happy moments

Doing all of this is the equivalent of a yonkie trying to get more drugs to overcome his withdrawal syndrome.

Keys to overcome a couple breakup

The keys to overcoming a breakup, regardless of the type of relationship, are basically the following:

1. Closure and acceptance. We need to close and put an end to that episode of our life. Accept that it is over. For this we must take and accept the explanation that they have given us to break, or invent one, and stop insisting on looking for unnecessary and painful explanations.
2. Pass the duel. A break is a loss, the breaking of a bond that was important, leaving a void. And that hurts. Taking time to feel and learn to deal with that pain is part of recovery.
3. Wanting to move on. We must have the determination to turn the page and move on with our lives. We can do it autonomously, for example by reading books to get over a breakup as a couple, like the one we leave you in the bibliography, or with professional help, attending therapy to get over the breakup as a couple. But we all know that sometimes wanting something is not enough and depending on the type of relationship we come out of, it will help us more to focus on some aspects than on others.

You had your life set up, your project in common, your dreams, your expectations... and everything that is cracked by the damn unforeseen (or not so unforeseen, depending on the case) of the separation.

Getting over a breakup after a long relationship is not easy, but it certainly comes out much stronger and more assertive. In these cases, it is important to learn to be alone, as we mentioned in the article how to learn to be alone after a relationship, rediscover yourself, go out, do things you like, meet more people, strengthen ties with those who love you and continue with your previous life as much as possible.

As we had already commented in another article cited above, society pressures us to find our own ideal partner: he "rejects" us if we are strange for being single and he "rewards" us if we follow the norm, it makes us feel that we fit.

The pressure is such that it is not surprising that we long for that company, that we look for it and that we cling to it when we find it. We cling to it so much in the beginning that we seem to go blind. And that blindness is what does not let us see the toxic things of the relationship, until it breaks.

Then comes the pain and all the mistakes we make in trying to overcome that pain. Therefore, one of the important things after get out of a toxic relationship, apart from everything mentioned above, is not to idealize the person:

• Remember in what ways the relationship was not good for you.
• Keep in mind things that hurt you, things that annoyed you, hobbies that you no longer have to deal with, etc.

There is no stipulated time range that says how long it is normal for it to take to overcome a couple breakup. Each person is a world and each relationship is different. So, each one needs its time and space and you have to grant them. Some take weeks and others years, but the important thing is that it is overcome.

In any case it is always advisable to receive psychological help to overcome a couple breakup in case you find yourself having more difficulties than you can bear to face it. The professionals will be able to do a better study of your case and give you advice more adapted to your situation.

And remember, as Buddha said "pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional."

This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.

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• Winch, G. (2018). How to Fix a Broken Heart. Simon and Schuster.