Live with your partner for the first time, it is a big change and a process of adaptation is necessary. The first year of living together for a couple is especially intense as it is a turning point in this process. The first step to living as a couple is to make this decision taking into account the responsibility of the consequences of this choice in the lifestyle. A pleasant coexistence is key so that this story evolves positively through the shared moments. How to live as a couple? In Psychology-Online we give you the keys to achieve it.
You can put these five keys into practice:
1. Home decor
From an interior design point of view, it is advisable to make decorating decisions as a team so that the general style of the home pleases both of you. This is a place of common coexistence, therefore, the language of the house can also project that image with which both identify. It is recommended that, in addition to the common areas, each one has their own space in the house.
2. Housework
Many couple discussions
3. House Rules
It is convenient that these norms do not remain in the air, but that they are concrete, clear and specific. They must be agreed upon by the protagonists. These principles favor the organization of coexistence. These rules are not immovable but can be modified adapting to each stage and thus updated or expanded.
4. Share time at home
The house is a space of intimacy and calm for the couple. A place with which both identify. It is very important to update happiness by adding new moments, sharing moments together. For example, it is possible to specify the routine of having lunch and dinner together if work schedules allow it, receiving visits from family members or enjoying moments of conversation.
5. Take the other into account
When living as a couple it is also important to have empathy with the other and take him into account. For example, if you are going to get home later than usual, you can give them advance notice. When you leave for work first thing in the morning, say goodbye to your partner. That is, take care of the relationship. You do not live alone in your house, therefore, do not behave as if it were like that.
What are the failures that can boycott living together as a couple?
1. Impose your own point of view
When living as a couple, different customs that each one has at home regarding the way of doing things can be revealed. Customs that are closely linked to the family history of each one. This is a time to create your own home.
2. Routine excess
When television becomes the main entertainment of weekend plans at home, monotony knocks on the door of that couple who have been stuck in a comfort zone lacking the incentive of novelty and surprise.
3. Exaggerate the differences
Even the happiest couples have differences of opinion in coexistence, that is, absolute happiness in a relationship it is not measured by the absence of these variables but by the constructive management of these circumstances.
4. Lack of communication
Home is a good place for dialogue, however, silence can also become an element present in a room when each one feels the weight of everything that he would like to express but not He says. Then, resentment begins to distance the couple.
5. Schedule daily home visits
Inviting friends over to your home, every day, regardless of your partner's opinion or your own wishes.
Next, we give you five ideas of simple rules that, as a theoretical orientation, can be a reference for action in living together as a couple:
- Watch the words. "Thank you" and "please" are concepts that make living together more enjoyable. As important as words are shared silences. The image of two people who feel comfortable enjoying a common silence is also synonymous with happiness.
- Have patience. An observation may be very obvious from your own point of view, but it is less so from the opposite point of view. There are different interpretations of reality. To be more patient with your partner, you need to be patient with yourself in the first place. To do this, always remember what is important in coexistence so as not to give a secondary issue a main dimension.
- Meeting spaces. Although the routine of each one is conditioned, in part, by their work schedule, it is recommended establish common meeting spaces to share every day from the simplicity of the coexistence.
- Acceptance. When you live with someone and show your constant desire to change them in your daily life, you create a distance. Coexistence is only possible from the acceptance of the virtues and defects (own and others).
- Creativity. Integrate this ingredient in your life as a couple to promote the surprise factor from the novelty.
Enjoy this chapter of your love story trying to focus your attention on those issues that depend on you or both.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
