If your partner is broken, it is very likely that you will spend most of your time arguing and each time you will want to spend less time together. It is also likely that the desire to have sex with your partner has vanished and you even feel certain hunches and negative premonitions about the relationship that can be a bad omen for the future of the relationship. Deep down in your heart there will be signs that the relationship is very bad, even if it is a very difficult reality to accept.
What is clear is that a couple is the responsibility of both and when love ends it is necessary to make the best decisions for the well-being of both. In this Psychology-Online article you will learn how to know if a couple is broken so that you can act in the best possible way in this difficult situation.
Index
- His presence bothers you
- no trust
- blames you for everything that happens
- A very toxic dynamic is created
- the complicity ends
- There is no improvement in the relationship
- You no longer want to have sex
- you don't want to sleep together
- you take refuge in work
- You have different goals and life plans
His presence annoys you.
If your partner has broken up, whatever you do, you are going to annoy him, even if it is for trivial things like talking on the phone in front of him, listening to music or even meeting spaces with your partner. For your part, it is likely that you feel that you can no longer stand his voice or his laughter and intense desires to get away from his presence.
You will feel that you must be very subtle so as not to irritate your partner, which will keep you at an eternal level of anguish and discomfort.
There is no trust.
Trust is the backbone of any relationship. For this same reason, if it is lost, there will not be much more to do. You may have lost that trust that was between you because of some infidelity, because of jealousy or due to lack of communication.
In some cases, mistrust may also be due to some insecurity problem in your partner or because it reflects on you their own shortcomings. If that is your case, the most sensible thing to do is to run away from that type of relationship.
He blames you for everything that happens.
Another sign that your relationship has broken up is that you always will blame you for all the arguments or inconveniences you have.
As we already mentioned, when you have a partner, both parties must do their part to maintain balance and for everything to run smoothly. However, when all the responsibility falls on you, it will mean that you no longer have an interest in making an effort in the relationship.
A very toxic dynamic is created.
One of the most obvious signs that your partner is broken is the presence of a toxic dynamic in your relationship. When a couple experiences a toxic dynamic, the negative and destructive behavior patterns they become recurrent, making communication and emotional connection difficult.
For example, they live in a constant state of conflict, heated arguments, and insults where they always there will be mutual disrespect that can be emotional, verbal or even physical in situations extreme. In this article we explain How to get out of a toxic relationship.
The complicity ends.
It is usual that when a couple breaks up, signs of complicity or mischief cease to be appreciated. For example, you will no longer be able to appreciate that shine in the look of time ago and your heart will stop racing when you see him/her arrive because your feelings towards that person are no longer the same as when they loved each other.
Also, it is possible that you even stop sitting together and avoid touching or talking, because you will no longer have anything good or interesting to say to each other. Therefore, if your partner no longer responds to your gestures or seeks closeness, it may mean that you already began to go your separate ways a long time ago.
There is no improvement in the relationship.
It is normal for couples to go through ups and downs throughout their relationship, but when love is true, they will know how to recover their way. However, when the couple is hopelessly broken, there will be no improvement in the problems and every day you will feel more suffocated in the relationship.
If they do not have the strength to recover from adversity and do not show interest in solving problems and getting ahead, it is better that they speak sincerely and that each one continue by their side.
You no longer want to have sex.
It is normal for passion to cool down a bit in any relationship with the passage of time and you have to find ways to revive it. However, when you no longer feel any sexual desire for your partner nor do you ever want to be intimate can be another warning sign that the relationship is broken.
The same happens if you feel that sex is an activity that must be carried out "out of obligation" and not because really feel like it, because this is clear evidence that the gossip between you. In this sense, it is important to remember that you should never do anything you do not want to do or fall under social pressure or from your partner.
However, before drawing hasty conclusions, try to talk to your partner to rule out other possible reasons for this situation, such as some mental health problem that decreases libido, or that is within the asexual spectrum and does not experience attraction sexual.
You don't want to sleep together.
One of the most obvious signs that there is no longer love between the couple is that you never want to sleep together. It is normal that at some point you prefer to sleep apart because you have argued, however, when the relationship is broken you will not bear being so close and you will end up sleeping in a room or in separate beds whenever possible.
In addition, the lack of love in the couple will also cause intimacy and physical proximity to be practically non-existent and intolerable.
You take refuge in work.
If you have the feeling that your partner often works overtime voluntarily or that you yourself you don't want to get home early to avoid spending a lot of time with your partner, this may be a sign that the relationship has broken up and you are looking for ways to avoid meeting each other.
In addition, there will always be an excuse to go out with friends or do anything that does not involve being with you because you will no longer be important in your partner's life.
You have different goals and life plans.
Finally, another way to confirm if your relationship has broken up is to realize that You no longer have goals or plans in common or hope for a future together. In other words, each partner will plan her future in their own way, and her life goals no longer involve you, but become individual goals.
The most sensible thing in these cases is to think about what is best for you and look for a new destination where you are truly happy. In the following article we explain How to end a relationship without hurting.
This article is merely informative, at Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
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