There is no single way to experience infidelity, each person experiences her own response in a situation of this type. However, there is one possible circumstance in a moment of disenchantment: those who know the infidelity of their partners can feel how this attitude translates into damage towards the self-esteem. Therefore, at a time when many people focus on their own love as a couple, in relation to decision they want to make after an infidelity, it is convenient to change the turn of attention to take care of love own self.
¿How to regain self-esteem after an infidelity? In this Psychology-Online article, we will give you the main keys to increase your self-esteem and security
How to feel better after going through such a situation?
1. Don't let this determine your life forever
This is a punctual event that has happened in your biography. However, the fact itself is not as important as how you interpret it. If you magnify it, you make the pain multiply to the point of reminding you every day of what has happened. On the contrary, if you try to put it in the context of a lifetime, then the dimension of this situation is more relative. Your life is not reduced to this sequence. Therefore, make the free and conscious decision to adopt a
2. You are not responsible for your partner's decision
If your partner has been unfaithful to you, this is something that transcends your own field of influence. It's about your decision. Therefore, do not assume a responsibility that does not correspond to you. Even if the relationship did not go through a good time, infidelity is not a consequence that occurs by way of cause and effect from this point on.
3. Commit to your own life
If commitment is the key to trust in a relationship, commitment is also the determining factor in the friendship bond that you establish with yourself. Do not let anything distract your attention from what is urgent: commit to your life and your present. For it, take care of yourself physically and mentally.
4. You're not alone
Heartbreak can produce a perception of loneliness, however, you can find unconditional sources of support in friends and family. This company experience can go beyond the plane of social relationships. For example, a book, a movie, a place, a phrase of love from a famous author, a photograph, can be hope pills at this time.
5. Start a new personal or professional project
The tendency to look to the past can be recurrent for a person who has suffered an infidelity and this circumstance has affected her self-esteem. On the contrary, to break with this tendency to look at the past it is advisable pay attention to the present and in the near future. Break the foreseeable script of days in which the memory of that moment returns to your mind, through the involvement in a new goal that somehow excites you. This is a good opportunity to open the door to a new experience.
The AMP (positive mental attitude) is a technique in psychology that consists of changing the focus of thoughts and beliefs to regain self-esteem after an infidelity. If the way you interpret reality can condition you in a situation of this type, it is because your beliefs can define reality more than reality itself.
What beliefs should be reviewed in such a situation? - Change your perspective!
- You conclude that your partner has never really loved you. The pain caused by a wound of this type can be so intense that some people conclude that this fact has the ability to erase any type of previous love gesture.
- It is impossible to overcome an infidelity. There is no single course of action after experiencing an episode of this type. However, although many couples break their relationship after the mistrust that remains at the base of this bond, others manage to give themselves a second chance and may get over an infidelity and stay with your partner.
- Feeling of inferiority. A person can be compared to who his partner has been unfaithful to him. In this comparison, she undervalues herself by letting that fact define her integral value.
- Guilt. To the very pain of heartbreak, some people add the burden of guilt because they have this mental rumination after going through an episode that has broken their expectations.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
