When ending a relationship, many people wonder if to close that chapter of their life it would be good for them to lose contact with the person so that he or she cannot communicate with him or her. Sometimes a single click to ensure that the person can not send you any message and, in that way, all kinds of relationships are ended, even so There are those who see that strategy very cold and choose to keep them in the contact list, but ignore all their messages. In this Psychology-Online article we want to give you some advice on whether it's better to block or ignore your ex.
Index
- Block your ex
- When to ignore your ex
- When is it better to erase your ex's phone?
Block your ex.
Block my ex: yes or no? Here are the pros and cons of blocking your ex-partner from WhatsApp and social networks.
When to block your ex
Blocking may seem like a very radical option depending on which people, but also it can be very useful for those people who have ended up very damaged
In addition, it can also be useful for that person whose ex-partner contacts him or her in the wee hours of the morning - after partying and with a few more drinks - with possible inappropriate messages For the moment in which you are, if this happens and is a source of anguish, do not hesitate and block, everything that does not contribute to us in our life we must put it aside.
It may also be he or she who performs this action. Here we explain why your ex has blocked you and what you should do.
When not to block your ex
When the fact of imagining that your ex can contact you does not cause you discomfort and you do not live waiting for that message, simply you accept -Despite the pain that a break may entail- that the relationship is over, there is no reason to block that person. You know that it is someone who has been part of your life but no longer, and that nothing happens if one day you find a message his, he can continue in your contact list without it supplying a constant obsession about what he does or what he does not do Y without it disturbing your day to day.
When to ignore your ex.
The Royal Spanish Academy defines the word ignorance as ignorance of something in particular or well the term can also be used when a person disobeys an order or ignores something. If we look at this last definition and apply it to our former relationship, ignorance is a very neat way of telling someone without words that it is no longer part of your life.
If you want to show your ex partner that despite all her attempts she is not going to get anything, before blocking him and giving him the possible satisfaction of seeing that there is still something about him or her that is stirred inside when he speaks to you, the solution is to do nothing and simply do not give more importance to their messages or their possible signals. When the message you want to give your ex partner is that of "you are not part of my life" despite being able to access it, ignorance is a good way to show it.
Even so, you should also assess before ignoring your ex-partner if there are issues still to be resolved and close that chapter of your life, in the case that doing the analysis has come to the conclusion that there is nothing else to tell or add to your ending and the someone else just opens you up to see if there is still hope and hold on to your messages or replies, ignoring is a way of saying: "there is no hope, continue on your way without me".
When is it better to erase your ex's phone?
The solution to this question is to first ask yourself how important it is to having the number of a person with whom you have broken the bond you had.
It is better to delete your ex from WhatsApp
If the answer to the question is that it hurts you to have that number and not be able to use it, or you are worried that at some point you can commit an impulsive act and calling or sending an inopportune message to your ex partner, it may be time to start considering getting rid of that number.
No need to delete your ex
In the event that keep it don't be a source of many painful memories nowadays, there would be no need to do without that contact, who knows if one day you can be friends or can help you in anything, finally And after all, your ex partner has been someone important to you who has known many parts of your life and, perhaps not now, but later it can be established a different link the one you had.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
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- Peña Rubio, D. C., & Castaño Valencia, M. C. (2018). Coping styles and the grieving process in the face of a couple breakdown in a former young adult couple.
