Loving a person thinking about his virtues and all the good things that he has is relatively simple. On the other hand, loving a person by valuing his flaws and weaknesses poses more difficulties. However, in any relationship, both he and she have hobbies and defects. How to love your partner despite his flaws?
It does not matter who you fall in love with or how perfect that person seems to you in the infatuation phase because all that happens, and sooner or later, a new reality emerges. That of love without mask or artifice in which a person shows not only his virtues but also, its less beautiful points.
On the other hand, objectively assess your relationship to see if what the other person gives you is positive or negative. In the event that arguments and negative experiences can be more in a relationship, it is healthy to break that toxic bond. Love your partner's imperfection because human love itself is imperfect.
On more than one occasion, the conflict does not arise from a mania of the other but from an own obsession with that subject. To avoid it,
Avoid exposing your partner in front of friends and family. If you have to say something to him then, do it in private. Similarly, be careful not to assume the role of the perfect gift because nobody likes to be corrected all day like a little child.
To love your partner's flaws, remember how perfect that person seemed to you when you fell in love. Relativize their hobbies, put a sense of humor into practice and smile.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
