The consequences of the overprotection of parents on their children are not very encouraging since, with their overprotection, they deprive them of living their lives naturally and spontaneously. In fact, they hinder their healthy development and burden them with fears, insecurities and a significant lack of responsibility that can pose great obstacles in their lives.
In the following Psychology-Online article we are going to show you what the main consequences of parental overprotection with the aim of guiding a diagnosis that promotes the change towards a sober and mature fatherhood.
Index
- lack of experimentation
- fears and insecurities
- inability to solve problems
- Immaturity
- reduced learning
- Lack of responsibility
- Poor maturational development
- Low self-esteem
Lack of experimentation.
As the name suggests, overprotective parents are overprotective of their children. They deprive them of experiencing situations in which, in principle, there is no danger, they could even involve appropriate and necessary learning for their children.
Fears and insecurities.
Another of the effects of overprotection from parents to children is that, unconsciously, they transmit a large amount of fears and insecurities towards situations that, if they were faced by themselves, they could carry out without any problem.
During childhood there are certain experiences on which we later create mental schemes about what the world is, life, about what we and our neighbors are. The overprotection of parents can cause these fears and insecurities to be installed inside their children and condition their further development..
Inability to solve problems.
Overprotective parents resolve any complicated situation their children may find themselves in. His intention is that they do not suffer, physically or emotionally, by experiencing it. Still, by stepping in and solving the situation on their own, they make their children believe that they are incapable of solving it on their own.
As a consequence, the children do not learn to solve problems, because, by not letting them experiment, they do not believe they have the resources or the necessary confidence to deal with difficult situations. In these situations, we recommend you read this article on how to have self confidence.
Immaturity.
If we talk about the effects of overprotection in children, one of them is the immaturity that parents transmit to their offspring. The cause of this parental behavior are usually past experiences. In fact, it often happens that parents educate their children as if it were a second chance for their own life, avoiding at all costs possible suffering that reopens the personal wound.
In other cases, however, it is an overprotection that is confused with "perfect motherhood", according to which overprotecting means offering the best for him or her. The direct consequence is that the children also become immature and they are unable to discern the real danger who have their actions.
Reduced learning.
What causes parental overprotection? Prevents children from living enriching experiences. Life is alive and it is through it that boys and girls get to know the world. If overprotective parents prevent them from experiencing certain situations, the little ones will miss out on many life experiences and all the learning associated with them.
Lack of responsibility.
Another consequence of parental overprotection is that, over time, the children learn to ignore problems, since they know that their parents will solve them for them.
As a result, these boys and girls are not capable of taking responsibility for everything that, due to their age, corresponds to their own daily tasks. In the same way, they have a hard time making an effort in the tasks entrusted to them. So that this does not happen, we recommend you consult this article on how to help my son be responsible.
Poor maturational development.
For all that has been said, despite all their good intentions, overprotective parents hinder the correct maturational development of their children, since they prevent them from living their own and necessary situations for it. Here are some examples to illustrate this point:
- They impede the correct psychomotor development: when children are very young, for fear of falling or hitting themselves, parents prevent them from moving freely.
- They prevent them from making an effort and assuming responsibilities: at later ages, to avoid school overload, they solve part of the school tasks.
- They impede the development of social skills: when they resolve their social conflicts at older ages, they prevent them from developing conflict resolution skills. In these cases, in this article you will find information on how to improve social skills in children.
Low self-esteem.
The overprotection of parents to children suggests that parents They underestimate the great potential of their children. to be nourished by everything they experience. In addition, boys and girls are in a state of purity, free from conditioning and fear of any type, because it is much easier for them to acquire the "good knowledge" and extract the best from each situation.
In this sense, overprotective parents should let their children deal with all those situations that they can solve by themselves.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
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Bibliography
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