You're talking all day, the conversation never seems to end. The next day back again. There is good vibes, notes feeling Between the two of you, you would like to go further and see how you do without the screen in the middle, if there is the same chemistry or not. There is only one problem and that is that you do not see that the other person wants to take the step to meet you. When the subject came up, he answered that later on and, despite the fact that you like to talk to that person, it is starting to make it a bit difficult for you to continue down that path. You need to see the person once and for all and not continue with that telematic relationship. In Psychology-Online we want to explain what may be happening so that this person I wrote to you but I did not want to meet you.
There are more extroverted people and others more introverted, the latter can sometimes have more difficulties to take another step in a relationship. It can happen that the person feels very comfortable talking to you and that he really likes you, since, if not, he would not talk to you as often. Even so, if you've been talking for a long time,
If he doesn't want to meet, why does he constantly talk to you? It seems strange and for this reason it is a common question to which we are going to answer. Here is a list of causes that may be causing the other person not to take another step:
1. Low self-esteem
Low self-esteem leads insecurities And that can affect social life and, obviously, when it comes to meeting someone. The fear of criticism or of not meeting the expectations expected by the other person makes this person put difficulties and impediments when it comes to meeting you. In this article you can see the characteristics of people with low self-esteem.
2. Introversion
The introvert is very thoughtful and tends to be more sociable with people they know well, so they will spend a lot of time getting to know you before taking a step on how to meet. His comfort zone goes through first knowing more about you and later feeling more comfortable when facing a face-to-face date. If you want to be able to identify this type of personality, here you will find all the characteristics of an introvert.
3. Afraid
The afraid it is an emotion that on many occasions can be paralyzing. There are people who due to various situations, facing a date can cause them some fear and they prefer to have long conversations but not face to face.
4. Physical complex
The physical complex is related to self-esteem, despite this, it is something peculiar, there are people who their appearance physical causes them great insecurity but they know that their conversation is very interesting and they can contribute great things to the other person. Even so, today we live in a society where physical appearance continues to play a very important role when it comes to meeting someone or not. This fact can make the person try until the last moment to be drawing your attention for how it isThus, when the physicist stays with you, it will no longer play that first role. If you think that this may be what is holding back the other person, emphasize that for you the physical is not the most important thing about a person.
5. Shyness
Unlike introversion, where the person interacts only with those people they know well, the shy person presents nervous about any social eventregardless of whether you know them or not. Perhaps the shy person feels more comfortable talking to you behind a screen and the mere fact of thinking that he has to stay, causes him certain anxiety.
6. Negative experiences
On our backs we all carry a backpack of experiences, some positive, others not so much. It may happen that if in love matters we have had some bad experiences, they weigh us down too much and slow us down when it comes to taking another step to meet someone, for fear of adding another negative experience more and being unable to see that perhaps it does not have to be negative and can be positive. If you think that this may be the reason why the person does not dare to take the step, it is important to validate how they may feel and even give examples of oneself.
- Example: "The truth is that on some occasion they have also hurt me on this issue, I have been excited and then nothing. I fully understand how you must be feeling. "
7. Is with someone else
It may be that he finds you a very interesting person but his current situation, which he may not have told you about, is that he already has someone in his life and he simply looks for a passing fun to meet certain needs of the relationship.
When someone confuses us, we must take the reins to clarify the situation. To do this, next we are going to see what we can do when a person feels that he is confusing us.
Take the initiative
You've been talking for too long now not to meet. Go ahead! Propose it. Perhaps all his insecurities disappear when he sees that you too want to take another step and he or she did not dare to tell you.
What do you think about me?
Perhaps it may give the feeling that this question is not very consistent with why you do not see each other, but it is true that before taking a step like meeting, it may be fine know what opinion you have the other person about you. In addition, depending on the answer, we can intuit if the person wants to take another step or not.
Why don't we meet?
The most direct question of all, but it will solve any doubt on the subject and it will allow us make a decision on the continuity or not of the conversations with the person.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
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