A infidelity It is a circumstance that can occur in a couple relationship, although not necessarily, that is, it is a fact that does not condition all relationships. When a person begins to doubt the fidelity of her partner, he experiences the same bewilderment that produces doubt centered on suspicions, assumptions and interpretations that may be true or wrong. How to discover an infidelity of a man or a woman? In the following Psychology-Online article, we give you all the keys so that you can know how unfaithful acts and if your partner is cheating on you with another person.
At this moment, it is possible that your inner dialogue is very focused on that question that you want to solve. These questions can help you clarify your thoughts:
- What objective data do you have to doubt your partner ?: Beyond any type of interpretation or intuition, it is advisable to focus the argument on around evaluations that are accompanied by facts so as not to fall into the terrain of subjectivity absolute.
- Have you observed any significant change in the relationship between you ?: try to contextualize when you feel that there has been a turning point in this link and in what way that change has occurred.
- What can you do to resolve this question ?: This question positions you in a leading role in this situation. That is, it is recommended that you try to specify what you can do from what is happening to you internally, since even though infidelity is not is really producing, the simple fact of suspecting your partner produces a suffering similar to that experienced by a person who is really going through that pain.
There is no instruction manual to discover infidelity. However, taking into account that you are one of the people who knows your partner best, you can also observe possible changes in their behavior. What are the possible signs of infidelity ?:
1. Significant schedule change
A break in schedules that occurs regularly and, therefore, implies a higher level of absence from home. These absences will be accompanied by work justifications that, in some cases, are just excuses to hide the infidelity.
2. Distance or excess of romance
An infidelity can not only produce the effect of distance in a relationship even when physically together in the same place. It can also happen that the person makes an effort to take care of the details so as not to be discovered.
3. Technological connection
New technologies also create new nuances in infidelity. For example, it is likely that the couple spends a lot of time in front of the computer or consulting the mobile phone because through this means they communicate with that person. Your partner does not answer some phone calls when he is with you, nor is he easily reachable when you call him during his absences on supposed business trips, for example.
4. Confuse your name with someone else's
Doubts can also begin with the confusion of those who use the wrong name to refer to their partner. It is not something that has a meaning when it occurs in isolation, however it can have a greater value when it is repeated on more than one occasion and this symptom is accompanied by other gestures observable.
5. Frequent doubts
Unfounded doubts are frequent for a jealous person. However, they are not for someone who fully trusts their partner. In that case, yes The distrust and doubts affect your state of mind in a habitual way, try to reflect on what is behind this thought. For example, possible lies or contradictions.
6. Take better care of your image
You notice that he is more aware of his physical appearance through fashion and sports, however, you spend less and less time together.
In the following article by Psychological profile of an unfaithful person You can continue to discover how an infidel acts.
First of all, to find out if your partner is unfaithful to you, talk with her about this theme. This conversation can broaden your own view on the topic by supplementing your information with the other's point of view. That does not mean having blind faith in the words of the interlocutor if you have objective data to doubt, because one of the possible reactions of the infidel is to deny the evidence. Try to support your reflections with data and arguments.
In this moment and in any other moment in your life, it is important that you act in a way that gives you calm and tranquility. When you have this conversation with your partner, it is recommended that expose your doubts from assertiveness, instead of doing it from reproach. To do this, don't give an absolute truth value to an assumption that may not be true. In the following article, you can see How to resolve a conflict in an assertive way.
Talking with your partner is important because the human being is very complex and the change in a person's behavior can be caused by factors very different from infidelity.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
