The language of the body is very expressive and communicative in the plane of love of the couple relationship. Physical distance can be related to emotional distance. Sometimes, without realizing it, the sexual desire in the couple decreases and that causes you to feel less desired. In day to day there are many factors that can turn off passion.
If you are going through a situation of this type, in this Psychology-Online article, we answer the following question: Why doesn't my partner touch me? We help you find the answer to this and other related questions such as the lack of sexual desire in your partner or the rejection that he shows you in intimacy.
Why doesn't my husband touch me? Next, we show you possible causes why your partner does not seek you sexually.
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Stress: the modern rhythm of life, marked by constant commitments and the urgency of the rush that marks the rhythm of work and other commitments, can have an effect on the mood of the affected person. Stress can activate personal apathy.Stress influences desire, since when a person goes through a situation of these characteristics he has a reductionist vision of reality. Your thoughts are focused mainly on the reason for the concern that affects you or that issue you want to resolve. Focus all your energy on that goal.
- Weight of routine in the relationship: monotony can produce a lot of suffering at a psychological level, routine can kill passion in the couple if the protagonists do not take the initiative to integrate the surprise factor in love.
- Low selfsteem: for example, a person who has a physical complex that conditions her own self-concept projects herself as unattractive to the other. That is, he projects her own insecurity through body language.
- Infidelity: if your partner does not touch you and does not seek you sexually, they can also show a situation of these characteristics. However, for this to be the cause of the situation, this indication must be accompanied by other components. For example, change of habits and prolonged absences without a logical and credible justification. It may happen that the person has not materialized the infidelity, but is in love with a third person and has lost interest in her partner.
- Relationship crisis and communication problems: a crisis produces suffering because the couple feels the uncertainty of not knowing how this love story is going to evolve. Body and mind interact constantly, also in love. In this way, the body can somatize the blocks, the contradictory feelings and the emotional knots of a situation that produces a psychological burden. Just as a couple communicates their love naturally through the power of a caress, on the contrary, those who have an affective distance due to a disagreement, they may feel that there is a barrier between them that generates distance. And this lack of physical contact is a reflection of that distance.
- Side effect of medical treatment: health also influences sexual desire and, in this case, the lack of desire transcends one's own will. For example, this can happen if the person suffers from severe depression. In this case, it is quite possible that the expert himself will inform the patient about the side effects of his ailment.
- Keep a secret: a secret that he wants to tell you but does not know how to do it. This produces a constant psychological tension and contradiction. For example, you may consider that your relationship is over, but you don't dare to go through with the decision-making step.
- Fear of intimacy- Your partner may be rejecting you sexually as a result of a previous negative experience that has caused him or her frustration.
We have talked about the causes or factors that can influence your partner not looking for you sexually. But how does the lack of sex affect the couple? Although it is an aspect that depends on each couple, in general terms, sexual problems in the couple can have different consequences:
- Emotional instability and susceptibility.
- Lack of sleep: Concern about the lack of intimacy in the couple can lead to a decrease in the quality of sleep. In this article, you will see what to do when you can't sleep.
- Feeling of loneliness: You may feel that your partner ignores you and that makes you feel lonely.
- Humor changes, anxiety or stress.
- Mental and physical tiredness: feeling of exhaustion. In this article, we tell you what is mental fatigue and how to combat it.
If the current situation is "my boyfriend does not touch me" or "my husband no longer touches me", we will tell you what to do in these situations. Depending on the reason why your partner does not touch you, the measures to be taken to overcome this situation will be one or the other. Next, we propose solutions for the lack of desire in the couple:
- Identify the cause why your partner does not touch you or seek you sexually. For example, the situation is different when it is motivated by stress or anxiety, than when this circumstance It is produced by an infidelity, since the cause also produces consequences that affect the couple in a way or other. In this article, you will see how to reduce stress. Try talk to your partner, in a confident tone.
- If you consider that you both need help to redirect the situation, you can propose seek professional help. However, for this step to be really effective it is essential that both of you agree to take the step, since no one can help someone who does not want to receive this help.
- Encourage your introspection regarding the situation. You cannot know the answers that only your partner can give you in a definitive way. However, you can reflect on the situation in the way you have experienced it. For example, at what point did the change take place between you? Try to mentally travel to that moment to assess different factors that could affect the relationship.
In this article, we tell you how to improve decreased sexual desire and, in the following video, you will find more information about "why my partner does not want to have relationships with me "and tips to understand your partner when he does not want to have sex with you.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
