Have you ever met an extremely selfish man? Egoism is an attitude that implies thinking only of oneself, that is, living for oneself without ever worrying about the welfare of others. One can be a bit selfish about certain situations or with certain people or one can be selfish about many situations and with many people, it can also hurt or not others with more or less intensity.
Surely if you are wondering how to recognize a selfish man it is because you have the feeling that someone close to you is being close to you. In this Psychology-Online article, we are going to give you a series of keys that will undoubtedly help you detect a selfish man.
A person who is too selfish is capable of hurting others in order to get what he wants. So it can be said that there are also levels of egoism. Next, we give you 4 keys to detect a selfish person according to psychology:
They are intended to benefit from all situations
Although this attitude is quite common in most of the people since in some way we usually see by ourselves, in selfish people it is much more marked, it is repeated on many more occasions and with a greater intensity.
- By this we mean situations like for example: take advantage of the trust you have in a friend to ask favors all the time, let them invite you all the time time for others and never offer to invite something, do someone else a favor with the intention of asking something of change, etc.
They don't like to share
They are people who are not used to sharing what they have with others. In this case, a selfish man is distinguished because as a couple, for example, he is reluctant to share what he has with her. This happens in all kinds of situations from sharing her material possessions with her, to enjoying her belongings alone.
They are usually spiteful
It is in this case, men, that when his partner or any other person does not give him what he wants, perhaps at the moment he does not do or say anything, however it is a matter that will remain pending for the next time the other person asks them something. For example, if his partner did not reward him as he wished on their wedding anniversary, probably on the next anniversary or special day, he will not either. The resentment towards the partner it is usually one of the main reasons for wear, so it is essential to treat it.
They will never give you "the last thing they have left"
These are people who find it too difficult to part with their last possession, whether it be candy or gum. These people regularly when asked to share the last of their water, food, candy, etc. with you. they are even capable of inventing something so as not to part with it, even if they don't really want or need it. A selfish man in a relationship he will never think of leaving her the last thing left to her in order to keep "everything."
The emotional maturity It is usually little present in a selfish person, so we can also find these characteristics in them:
They are usually stingy people
Usually they are people who are not willing to give something for someone without receiving some benefit in return and this is applied all the time to their social life. For example, in the case of a Relationship, These are men who are not willing to offer to pick her up at work since not staying there would generate a I spend more, it is rare that they invite their partner to a restaurant and if they do they make sure it is in the cheapest place possible, etc. which makes them quite unpleasant and cold.
They do not usually lend any of their belongings
These are men who they hardly give in to lend something to someone, if there is no good reason to do so. What they would consider a good motive would be that they are thinking of asking the other person for a favor in return. They have the feeling that if they lend something, it will not get back into their hands, probably because they would not do it themselves.
They are ungrateful
They are people who in most cases are not capable of thanking someone who has done something for them by word of mouth. Even though the other person has done you many favors before, they will never or almost never be able to say a "thank you."
A selfish man really feels that he is the one "Center of the universe" and that everything revolves around him. When they have a partner, for example, they rarely think about her and her well-being, on the contrary, they only think about the benefit their own and feel that their partner always has to be there to help her get what she wants, regardless of what that implies for her. They tend to be extremely demanding and they like that their partner always does things for them, without stopping to think that at some point they also have to do something for them.
How is a selfish person in love
If their partner tells them something about this type of behavior, they deny being like that and they may do some kind of thing to them. of favor with the sole purpose of making their partner feel that there is reciprocity, however they do not heart. It is very rare for a selfish man to do something towards other people because he is actually born to him and because he cares for them, almost always, as we have mentioned in previous points, it will be the things to receive something to change.
To treat a selfish person in the couple, it is essential to encourage assertive communication. In this way, you can let him know how you feel and what they are your real needs at that moment.
This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.
