How to SAVE my MARRIAGE

Nobody said that relationships were easy and marriages less. A series of expectations are generated around marriage that often hardly adjust to reality. We relate, we fall in love, we make plans, we make mistakes, we change and we grow as people. But these changes (or the lack of them) can sometimes jeopardize that dear relationship we have. If this is your situation, keep reading this Psychology-Online article to discover some tips on how to save your marriage.

Index

1. How to save my marriage: 5 tips
2. How to save my marriage if he doesn't want to or she doesn't want to
3. How to Save My Marriage After Infidelity
4. How to save my marriage after a separation

How to save a destroyed marriage? To address the problems with your partner and try to find a solution, we propose 5 essential aspects:

1. Analyze your marriage. Find out what is wrong, why is it wrong? What is the reason (s)? And once the reasons are found, think, do they have a solution? What can each one do to improve your marriage? And above all, are you willing to make these changes?
2. Increase communication (both in quantity and quality). Good communication is basic for any type of relationship, and this is not only about expressing your feelings and needs with assertiveness, but also active listening towards the other person, with the will to understand and help them. Here you will find more information about how to improve communication in the couple.
3. Get out of the routine. And from your house. Monotony is like a silent virus that infects the relationship without you noticing. It is advisable to fight it from time to time with a getaway, trip, excursion... Also, spend That time together outside of your usual routine will help you to strengthen the bond between you. In the following article you can see how to get out of the comfort zone in a relationship.
4. Revive the passion. But do not go to a hotel... but they tell you to go to a hotel! Because here it is also about breaking with the routine.
5. Couple therapy. Going to a specialist on time may be the best solution, since she will guide you in your particular case and will be able to advise you on the best for you. The couple therapy It can teach you many strategies, from problem-solving methods to ways to fuel passion and improve sex.

The most common reason for marital breakups is a lack of communication or understanding, which is why tip number 2 in the previous section is so important and should not be underestimated. If you notice that in your relationship there is something that is not working and the other member of the couple is in passive mode, with no intention of trying to fix it: take the initiative.

If you are wondering how to save a marriage in crisis, first, make use of tips 1 and 2: communicate with your partner to find out how she perceives your relationship, what she thinks is wrong, what should change, etc. Later, start making those changes for real. If after a while you continue with the passive attitude of the beginning, consider yourself well if you really want to continue with the relationship, because in the end a marriage is a matter of two and you should work and feel comfortable both members. If you just try to save the marriage, it surely won't be enough.

Also, although at first a breakup seems like the end of the world, it also carries some positive things like an opportunity for personal growth and a new, more rewarding lifestyle. In the following article you will find How to overcome a break of couple.

Take a time apart It can also be an option if the person who wants to fix things feels stuck. Although a priori it seems that it is how to take a step in the opposite direction to your goal, a separate time can help to give you account and value the relationship you had, as well as having a space to reflect on the relationship and what really you want.

It is estimated that extramarital sex in Spain is practiced 1 in 3 men and 1 in 4 women, more frequently from the fifth year of marriage. The motivations can be very diverse: for varying (boredom or breaking routine), as a way of expressing hostility or retaliating towards the spouse, dissatisfaction with married life, as a way to validate the lack of affection towards the other person, to reinforce self-esteem, etc.

Statistics also indicate that 62% of men would forgive an infidelity compared to 51% of women. This tells us that a affair It does not have to be something unforgivable and irremediably destructive of your relationship, but obviously it will be affected by it.

To save a marriage after an infidelity it is essential to be very sincere with yourself and with the other person, whether it is you who has cheated, or the one who was deceived. In case you are the unfaithful person, it is important that you think well what has led you to commit the deception from there to make a deep reflection on your needs, your marriage, etc.

If you are the one who has been cheated on, you should listen to what your partner has to say and ask what you need, as well as think if you really want to continue with it and how to do it from now. From there, listen to each other, put one in the other's shoes, try to understand each other, and negotiate how you want to save your marriage. Article my husband cheats on me and doesn't recognize him, what do I do?, it can help you know how to deal with this situation.

Separations are often the prelude to divorces, but they don't always have to be that way. The average duration of marriages in Spain is around 17 years and marital breakdowns are more frequent in second marriages.

After a separation, if the two members of the couple are willing to reconcile and work towards that the marriage goes ahead, it is very likely that you have reflected on yourself and your relationship. It is also possible that you have realized how much and how you want to be with the other person, and, in most cases, this implies that they must make certain changes in the dynamics of marriage. Speak these points well and above all take things slowly, that Rome was not built in two days and a good relationship requires a solid foundation on which to build.

This article is merely informative, in Psychology-Online we do not have the power to make a diagnosis or recommend a treatment. We invite you to go to a psychologist to treat your particular case.

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